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Letter from Editors

Sally Rudoy

Sally Rudoy

Sharon Ziv Beiman

Sharon Ziv Beiman

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Fellow IARPP Members,

We are pleased to launch another issue of the IARPP eNews.

The new design of the IARPP eNEWS is interwoven with the meaningful and emotional stories that the chairs and participants tell about their experiences at IARPP’s annual conference held in Santiago last November 2013.  We hope you will be able to feel the spirit of Santiago and to take part in what transpired there through the reflections and photos you find in this issue.

The atmosphere of the Santiago conference was alive with dialogue, creativity, and curiosity.  Overall, it was the attendees’ openness to touch the traumatic and to simultaneously contact and formulate the experiences of self and other (with the understanding of their interdependence) that made the gathering a meaningful opportunity to explore the social, theoretical and clinical aspects of the relational approach.

This was also IARPP’s first bilingual conference. It enabled the opening of a dialogue about the relational approach to the wider professional community that lives and works in Spanish speaking countries. We welcome this development. It dovetails with our continuing effort to present many of the articles in the eNEWS in English as well as in the home language of our authors.

We wish to extend a warm welcome to the Mexico Chapter, the newest edition to the IARPP community!  You can read about their activities as well as those of our other chapters in this issue. Chana Ullman and Neil Altman set the stage for the chapter reports with an overview of IARPP’s expanding global reach.

Within this eNEWS you will also find an interview with Steven Kuchuck about his new edited book, a report of recent travels by Susie Orbach, and, of course, announcements about our colloquia, webinars, and upcoming IARPP events.

With good wishes to you all,
Sharon and Sally

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Submissions or Letters to the Editors
Please contact Sally Rudoy or Sharon Ziv-Beiman by June 6, 2014

sallyrudoy@gmail.com or sharon@sadenet.co.il

INSTRUCTIONS FOR SUBMITTING TO THE eNEWS:

1) Send us your full name and contact information including: Email, local address and phone number.

2) Send us a digital photograph of yourself.

3) Your announcement or article in full sentences.  Please submit in English and in your native language if you desire.

4) If you want to link to some other website, please include that link in the body of your article.

Introduction

Dear IARPP Bookshelf Reader,

Welcome to the “IARPP Bookshelf” section of the eNews. The IARPP Bookshelf celebrates the creative contribution IARPP writers, researchers, and thinkers are making to the relational field.

We hope you enjoy this edition of the Bookshelf. Our next deadline for submissions will be May 6, 2014. PLEASE READ BELOW FOR THE 6 STEP INSTRUCTIONS ON HOW TO SUBMIT INFORMATION.

How to submit:

1) Include the title of your book, article or presentation

2) A brief description of the content if you would like

3) A link to a publisher if there is one

4) artwork or a photo of the book cover if applicable

5) A JPEG Photograph of yourself

6) Please send all submissions to sallyrudoy@gmail.com

Warmly,

Sally and Sharon
co-editors

Sally Rudoy

Sally Rudoy

Sharon Ziv Beiman

Sharon Ziv Beiman

Victimhood, Vengefulness, and the Culture of Forgiveness

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Ivan Urlic ( Split Croatia)
Miriam Berger (Israel Tel Aviv)
Avi Berman (Israel Tel- Aviv)

This book was born out of the personal experiences of three authors, two Israeli psychologists and a Croatian psychiatrist, with the traumatic realities of man-made violence they face daily as they struggle with the suffering caused by the endless cycles of hostilities and counter- hostilities in their countries. It evolved into a study of the relational injuries that unleashed aggression causes and of the psychodynamic processes that characterizes them. Their respective contributions are clustered into three topics: Victimhood, Vengefulness, and a culture of forgiveness. The book offers new understandings about the processes involved in them and focuses on their implication for treatment of trauma victims and beyond.

Victimhood is defined as a self-state within which a person prefers compensation over recovery and growth. It entails a form of identification with a past aggressor that is manifested by a displaced intimidation and over-powering aimed at loved ones. When governed by this self-state a person may perceive himself as entitled to be exempted from concern for other people feelings and rights. It deprives all involved parties of relational and social resources and diminishes capacity for dialogue.

Vengefulness may be perceived as a quest for restoration of hope, justice and dignity when one is being made irrelevant, dismissed, ostracized. If the original insult has never been properly exposed, recognized and authenticated, the denigration causes an unbearable emotional pain that demands vindication. It may turn into viscous cycles of vengeful attacks and counter-attacks.

From this perspective, victimhood and vengefulness are intertwined processes that can set off destructive reactions and lock the individual (and/or the group) in dead end traps. These modes of relating constitute an intersubjective challenge in the clinical setting and in understanding socio-political processes as well.

Victims of traumatic histories may suspect that forgiveness is an impossible illusion and resign themselves to an existence in a harsh, hostile world in which one is destined to live chronically by one’s sword; such a stance undermines constructive vision, hinders learning from experience, and obstructs healing and renewal. It is therefore crucial to enable the unfolding of a culture of forgiveness as an essential element woven into the process of reconciliation with oneself and others.

Although the issues discussed in these “clusters” have a strong presence in the everyday lives of people and affect them deeply, they have not been sufficiently explored. This study presents them as relational processes which evolve all the way from unbearable destructive emotional states towards prospects of reconciliation. Clinical material that reflects the desolation caused by violence, lack of mutual concern and human need for connectedness is presented. The authors are joined in the belief that being more aware of the subjective meanings of the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors these “clusters” generate will enable therapists to be more empathic in their clinical work and beyond. The book constitutes a much needed additional path towards a humanizing dialogue and contributes to the struggle against senseless violence.

Avi Berman

Avi Berman

Miriam Berger

Miriam Berger

Ivan Urlic

Ivan Urlic

 

Contents

Foreword IX
Introduction: Personal motivations: how this book came into being. XIII

Part one (Avi Berman)

  • Chapter 1. Post-traumatic Victimhood: Between Recovery and Fixation 1
  • Chapter 2. Post-traumatic Victimhood: Psychoanalytic perspective 21
  • Chapter 3. Social and national Victimhood: The sociopolitical Aspect 43

Part two (Miriam Berger)

  • Chapter 4. Vengefulness as a discredited emotion 63
  • Chapter 5. Vengeful wishes: What are they about? The communicative function of vengefulness 87
  • Chapter 6. “Am I My Brother’s Keeper”: Vengefulness as a link of reconnecting 109

Part three (Ivan Urlic)

  • Chapter 7. To live with enemies and the “impossible” task to think on forgiveness 135
  • Chapter 8. Mourning and forgiveness as parts of a healing process 157
  • Chapter 9. On the culture of forgiveness as essential for reconciliation 187

Index 207

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Sweet Dreams Are Made of This (Or, How I Came out and Came into My Own)

Eric Sherman (USA)

I have contributed a chapter to Clinical Implications of the Analyst’s Life Experiences, a collection of papers by noted analysts describing how pivotal life experiences contributed to our personal and professional functioning, choices of theoretical positions, and clinical technique. My chapter, Sweet Dreams Are Made of This (Or, How I Came out and Came into My Own), describes my coming out experience, and how it continues to impact my clinical work and interest in relational psychoanalysis. Steven Kuchuck is the editor of the volume, which is part of the Relational Perspectives Book Series published by Routledge.

(http://www.routledge.com/books/details/9780415507998/)

The Psychodynamics of Social Networking

Aaron Balick (United Kingdom)

New book applying relational psychoanalysis to social networking:

ABlickBookCoverPofSNThis September saw the publication of Aaron Balick’s new book, The Psychodynamics of Social Networking: connected-up instantaneous culture and the self. The book was launched at Social Media Week London, an annual international event which aims to bring the latest thinking and developments within social media into one place; a series of events in which psychotherapeutic thinking has generally largely been lacking. Aaron presented on several occasions across the week in an attempt to bring insights from depth psychology into the field. The launch of the book was followed by a further event at The Freud Museum London in conversation with psychoanalyst Susie Orbach.

In The Psychodynamics of Social Networking, Balick applies theory from both object relations and relational psychoanalysis in an effort to understand the underlying psychodynamics or unconscious motivations behind people’s social networking use. The development of social networking as a phenomenon is seen as the culmination of the relational process between humankind and technology itself resulting in a virtual extension of the self that seeks to recognise and be recognised by others as mediated by technological interfaces. While the book is informed by clinical knowledge, it is not a text about problematic internet use nor is it intended to be a clinical handbook for therapists; instead it uses clinical and theoretical insights to understand our contemporary social networking culture from the vantage point of contemporary psychoanalysis.

While a great deal of research has been done with regard to internet use and social networking in society and culture, the vast majority of it is of a quantitative nature. ABalikIMG_3460While some research coming from the psychological fields is more qualitative, such research tends to operate on principles from experimental and academic psychology such as “the big five” personality measures and other similar indicators. While more and more work is being done in this area, there is a scarcity of psychoanalytic thinking about such an important cultural shift in the way we manage our relationships. Aaron’s book is an attempt to address this and suggest some possible models of theoretical application.
The text is now available from Karnac Books:
http://www.karnacbooks.com/Product.asp?PID=32929

aaron@mindswork.co.uk

Aaron Balick
Mindswork
55 St. John Street
London EC1M 3AN
Contact Phone: 07795 398 627

Web: www.mindswork.co.uk

 

 

Holding and Psychoanalysis :: Psychoanalytic Collisions

Joyce-headshotJoyce Slochower (USA)
Two books released in Second Editions:

 

 

 

Holding and Psychoanalysis
Is there a baby in the relational consulting room? How and when can/should we try to hold our patients? What happens to the analyst’s subjectivity when she tries to hold?

In Holding and Psychoanalysis: A Relational Perspective (second Edition), Joyce Slochower brings a contemporary relational framework to bear on Winnicott’s notion of the holding environment. Revisiting the clinical impact and theoretical underpinnings of holding, Slochower explores its function in those moments when “ordinary” interpretive or interactive work cannot be tolerated. Slochower expands the holding construct beyond the needs of dependent patients by examining its therapeutic function across the clinical spectrum. Emphasizing holding’s coconstructed nature, Slochower explores the contribution of both patient and analyst the holding moment.

This second Edition introduces new theoretical and clinical material, including four additional chapters. Two of these address holding’s impact on the patient’s capacity to access, articulate and process affect states; the third moves outside the consulting room to explore how holding functions in acts of memorial ritual across the lifespan. A final chapter presents Slochower’s latest ideas about holding’s clinical function in buffering shame states.

Integrating Winnicott’s seminal contributions with contemporary relational and feminist/psychoanalytic perspectives, Joyce Slochower addresses the therapeutic limitations of both interpretive and interactive clinical work. There are times, she argues, when patients cannot tolerate explicit evidence of the analyst’s separate presence and instead need a holding experience. Slochower conceptualizes holding within a relational frame that includes both deliberate and enacted elements. In her view, the analyst does not hold alone; patient and analyst each participate in the establishment of a co-constructed holding space. Slochower pays particular attention to the analyst’s experience during moments of holding, offering rich clinical vignettes that illustrate the complex struggle that holding entails. She also addresses the therapeutic limits of holding and invites the reader to consider the analyst’s contribution to these failures. Slochower locates the holding process within a broader clinical framework that involves the transition toward collaboration—a move away from holding and into an explicitly intersubjective therapeutic frame.

Holding and Psychoanalysis offers a sophisticated integration of Winnicottian and relational thought that privileges the dynamic impact of holding moments on both patient and analyst. Thoroughly grounded in case examples, the book offers compelling clinical solutions to common therapeutic knots. Clearly written and carefully explicated, it will be an important addition to the libraries of psychoanalysts and psychoanalytic psychotherapists.

http://www.taylorandfrancis.com/books/details/9780415640701/

Psychoanalytic Collisions

Psychoanalytic Collisions Second Edition wrestles with a theme that confronts every psychotherapist: the gap between illusions and realities about the professional self. Joyce Slochower closely examines situations in which the therapist’s professional and personal wishes collide with the actuality of everyday clinical work. The book unpacks the dynamics of these collisions on both beginning and seasoned therapists, offering ways of sustaining a professional ideal while also exploring the mixed impact of that ideal on clinical work. In examining how illusions and ideals affect the therapeutic encounter for both better and worse, Psychoanalytic Collisions invites the reader into the consulting room.

This Second Edition has been substantially revised. It includes updated clinical and theoretical material as well as a new chapter about mutual idealizations that coalesce between patient and analyst. Slochower argues that psychoanalytic collisions can be productively engaged, even if they often cannot be fully resolved.The very act of engagement—whether by establishing new grounds for collaboration in the wake of real-world catastrophe, wrestling with clinical impasses that arise from the divergent expectations of analyst and patient, or owning up to and addressing the analyst’s “secret delinquencies”—reveals how therapeutic hopefulness can coexist with an acceptance of the analyst’s all-too-human fallibility.

Psychoanalytic Collisions shows how idealization is intrinsic both to forging an analytic identity and practicing across a lifetime. Slochower’s work challenges readers to confront their own vulnerabilities and limits while also embracing a professional ideal that is at once human and inspiring. The book is an essential resource for psychoanalysts, psychotherapists, pastoral counselors, and readers interested in the practice of psychotherapy today.

http://www.taylorandfrancis.com/books/details/9780415813396/

 

 

Presentations

Ruth-Lijtmaer-Photo-copyRuth Lijtmaer (USA) presented the following papers:
•  “ When the Analyst is the Other“.
Psychology and the Other Conference.
Lesley University in Cambridge, Massachusetts,  USA,
10-4 to 10-6-13

•  “The Permanence of Pain in Social Trauma“.
IFPE (International Federation for Psychoanalytic Education),
10-31-13 to 11-2-13. Philadelphia, USA

• “ Social Trauma in Latin America: Can we forgive?“.
IARPP (The International Association for Relational Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy),
11-7-13 to 11-10-13, Santiago, Chile

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Sebastiano Santostefano

Sebastiano Santostefano presented:
How the Concepts of Body Image, Cognitive-Emotional Orientation and Enactment Guide Why, When and How to Use Activity in Child and Adult Psychotherapy.
at George Washington University on February 8, 2013:

Sebastiano Santostefano
sebsantostefano@yahoo.com
3 Black Beach Hills Rd.
PO Box 1243, West Falmouth MA 02574
Telephone: 508-457-3142

 

Jack Drescher

 

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Jack Drescher
jackdreschermd@gmail.com
www.jackdreschermd.net


Edited Books

Treating Transgender Children and Adolescents: An Interdisciplinary Discussion.
(Routledge, 2013)
Edited by Jack Drescher and William Bye

The LGBT Casebook
(American Psychiatric Publishing, 2012)
Edited by Petros Levounis, Jack Drescher & Mary Barber

Book Chapter

Gender Dysphoria and Disorders of Sex Development
Contributor: Chapter: Gender Identity Diagnoses: History and Controversies
(Springer, 2013)

Journal Articles

Ghosts in the Consulting Room: A Discussion of Anson’s “Ghosts in the Dressing Room.”
(Journal of Gay and Lesbian Mental Health, 2013)

Controversies in Gender Diagnoses
(Journal LGBT Health, 2013)

Memo Outlining Evidence for Change for Gender Identity Disorder in the DSM-5. (Co-Author)
(Archives of Sexual Behavior, 2013)